For the most part, the bride is usually much more into planning the intimate details of her wedding than the groom, but this does not mean that you can just hand everything over to your future wife. You can find a balance between not being involved at all and having to sign off on every little detail. Striking this balance can be difficult, since men tend to be less insistent on details than women. To keep peace before the wedding, there are a few things you can do. Something you can do to help yourself out is learning what it takes to plan a wedding. Once you know about the process and all the items that must be taken care of, you can eliminate a lot of surprises and stress.
You will be much more relaxed if you know what to expect instead of being covered in tasks to take care of. Speaking with a wedding planner may be well worth your time. A wedding planner will give you a run-down of things that need to be taken care of prior to the wedding day, and how things need to happen on your special day. You should also speak with other married people, especially ones that are close to you, since their advice will be relevant to your tastes and personality. Although knowing what to expect will help immensely, your fiance will likely have several items or details she is set on. Your best bet can be to just go with the flow, unless she is proposing something you consider outrageous.
In some cases, your fiance may want you to be involved in every step of the process, down to what kind of flowers, what color flowers, and how many. Although the flowers at your wedding may be of little consequence to you, this and other wedding planning issues could be huge for her. One phrase you should learn to help you get through this time is, "What do you think.
" By asking this question you can see what is on her mind, because although she wants your input, she most likely still wants to make the final decision. Although deciding on every aspect of your wedding may not be fun, your future wife has certain expectations for her wedding day. To ensure that you live to see your wedding, you will need to negotiate an arrangement that will not leave you responsible if she is not happy with some part of the wedding, but will make sure that you have some part in the decision making.
Andi Michaels is the father of 4 grown up children and writes regularly on family related topics including marriage guidance and bridesmaid's gift and much more